Think before commit: The importance of truth in Love

A true relationship is built on clarity, commitment, and shared goals - not on social status, wealth, or position

Think before commit: The importance of truth in Love (image source: google)

In imbalanced relationship, challenges often arise when a wealthy, socially established individual falls in love with someone ordinary, vulnerable, or less privileged. 

While the initial connection may feel genuine and heartfelt, the imbalance in background, status, or lifestyle can create tension over time. When reality sets in, the privileged person may begin to withdraw — and instead of facing the truth with honesty, they may resort to lies or excuses to avoid discomfort. In the process, the vulnerable person suffers even more.

In the world we envision, every human would act with integrity — not just in words, but also in thoughts and choices. This kind of honesty would bring clarity, deepen relationships, and reduce emotional suffering. Life would be simpler, decisions more thoughtful, and hearts less broken.

But the reality we live in is quite different.
Too often, people choose lies to escape temporary discomfort. They offer half-truths, make excuses — bahanas — and pretend instead of being real. Why? For short-term peace. But that short-term peace always comes at the cost of long-term damage — both to oneself and others.

Love, Maya, and Realizations

Sometimes, even highly educated and well-established individuals fall love for someone ordinary and socially vulnerable person. This attraction is often built on affection, kindness, and a feeling that “She is the one I’ve been searching for.” You start believing that your life won’t be complete without her. You show love, make promises, and plan futures.

But eventually, differences start to appear — in status, education, values, lifestyle, position, salary difference, or even vision for life. Slowly but surely, the strong emotions fade. And then, the same person who once felt like “home” starts feeling distant.

At this point, many people don’t speak the truth. They start lying — to avoid guilt, to protect their image, or simply because they don’t want to hurt the other person. But the irony is: every lie you tell to avoid hurting someone else, ends up hurting them even more — just a little later.

And worse, it becomes a habit.

The Courage to Be Honest

Here's the truth: it's okay to feel differently over time.

It’s okay to realize you made a mistake in choosing someone.
But what’s not okay is to pretend.

If you’ve lost interest in someone you once promised to stay with, say it. Gently. Clearly. Respectfully. But don’t hide it behind false stories, mood swings, or neglect. That’s not kindness — that’s cruelty in disguise.

Before making any commitment — especially one as deep as lifelong companionship — take the time to assess:

• Are we truly compatible?
• Do we share similar values and visions?
• Is my interest rooted in deep connection or temporary emotion?

Love without understanding is fragile. Commitment without honesty is a burden.

Choosing Truth Over Convenience

As the most intelligent beings on Earth, we are gifted with the power of self-awareness. So let’s use that power. Let’s choose to be honest — even when it’s uncomfortable. Because truth doesn’t destroy relationships. Lies do.

Being honest doesn't make you rude. It makes you real.
Telling the truth doesn't make you cruel. It makes you courageous.

In a world full of masks, let’s be faces.
In a world full of “maybe,” let’s be “clear.”
And in a world full of pretending, let’s choose to live and love truthfully.

Because honesty isn’t just a virtue —

It’s the most beautiful gift you can give to yourself and others.